A man I met on LinkedIn has twice said he was coming to my town. He lives 100 miles away but comes here monthly for business. He mentioned he was packing a bag—it’s too far to come, conduct his business, and drive home in the same day.

He chats about personal hobbies on LinkedIn. I messaged him my phone number and asked if he was buying coffee when he came to town, and he said yes, but didn’t suggest plans.

He texted me yesterday and asked for a recommendation for lunch to meet his contractor.

I assume he’s in town now, but I haven’t heard from him.

What do you think about his repeated comment that he was packing a bag? He has talked in DM quite a bit about his personal life but never mentioned a girlfriend or wife or asked me my status.

— Waiting for Signs in Seattle

Let’s call this what it is: he’s keeping you on the back burner while he focuses on other priorities. The real question isn’t what he means by “packing a bag”—it’s why he hasn’t made plans to see you despite repeated trips to your town.

If a man is genuinely interested, he’ll make a plan, set a date, and show up. This guy? He’s hinting at availability without actually showing up for you. Let’s break it down:

From a Rori Raye perspective, the key to understanding this situation isn’t about analyzing his words but focusing on his actions and, more importantly, how you feel when you interact with him.

• He’s mentioned multiple times that he’s coming to town and "packing a bag," yet he hasn’t taken any concrete steps to make plans with you.
• He accepted your coffee invitation in theory, but he didn’t set a time or follow up.
• He reached out for a lunch recommendation—but not to invite you, just to get your input for his business meeting.

💡 What This Means: His words suggest interest, but his actions are lukewarm at best. He might enjoy chatting with you, but he’s not showing real investment in spending time together.

This could be a subtle way of hinting that he’s available and open to spending time, but if he’s not making plans with you, it doesn’t mean much. He may also be dropping hints to gauge your level of interest without committing.

💡 What This Means:

• It could be a breadcrumb—a way to keep you interested without actually pursuing anything.
• It might also be a way to imply availability for a casual connection without directly stating his intentions.
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• If he talks openly about his life but never brings up a girlfriend, wife, or your status, that’s a red flag.
• A man who is truly interested in dating you would naturally ask about your relationship status, especially after ongoing conversations in DMs.
• Some men deliberately avoid discussing their personal status if they’re in a relationship but still want female attention or emotional connection elsewhere.

💡 What This Means:
He could be single and just not emotionally available, or he could be keeping you in the dark about something. Either way, a man who is genuinely interested in dating you would want to know if you’re available and would make clear that he is.

Instead of wondering what he means, tune into how you feel.

• Does this dynamic feel good to you?
• Do you feel pursued, cherished, and valued?
• Or do you feel like you’re waiting for breadcrumbs?

✅ Stop initiating contact. Let him reach out and make actual plans. If he’s interested, he will. If he doesn’t, you have your answer.
✅ Don’t chase clarity—let his actions show you the truth.
✅ If he texts again, respond warmly but don’t over-invest. Example: If he asks for another recommendation, you can say, “I’d love to meet for coffee sometime if you’re free. Let me know if that works for you.” If he doesn’t set something up, he’s just using you as a casual chat buddy.

If a man wants to see you, he will make plans and follow through. Let him show you his true intentions, and in the meantime, keep your options open to men who actively pursue you.

Rori Raye’s programs focus on helping women attract and maintain deeply fulfilling relationships by using feminine energy principles. She teaches how to lean back, stop over-functioning, and inspire commitment without chasing or over-giving.

Her coaching includes strategies for high-value dating, emotional connection, and transforming relationship dynamics to create the love life you deserve.

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